Accused Of ‘Cruelty’, The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child’s Identity But Insist They Love ‘Him’.

The mother of the transgender teen who committed suicide over the holiday season is speaking out, making it clear that she did not and does not approve of what she thinks was her daughter’s choice to be transgender.

In an interview with CNN, Carla Alcorn of Kings Mills, Ohio, said that she and her husband did not “support” their daughter Leelah Alcorn and refused to acknowledge her daughter’s sex, instead referring to her throughout the interview as “him”, “he” and “son”. She did, however, insist that both she and her husband loved their child unconditionally and are devastated by her suicide.

Carla Alcorn’s interview comes just days after Leelah jumped in front of a tractor trailer and ended her life. In her heartbreaking suicide note, Leelah wrote that because she was transgender, “The life I would’ve lived isn’t worth living in.” Speaking of her transgender daughter, Carla told CNN:

We don’t support that, religiously… But we told him that we loved him unconditionally. We loved him no matter what. I loved my son. People need to know that I loved him. He was a good kid, a good boy.

Carla and her husband Doug are both devout Christians and have other children who she says are trying to cope with the family’s loss. The parents also deal with the fact that some people think they are “horrible people”.

1. Leelah Alcorn (above) took her own life on December 28.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

2. In an interview, Leelah’s mother Carla Alcorn (left) revealed that she did not support her transgender daughter, while the girl’s father Don has remained silent.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

3. Leelah shows off her license in a photo that was shared by her father on Twitter.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

Carla explain the motivation behind some of the decisions she and her husband took during Leelah’s life. When asked why they did not allow the teenager to have transition surgery, she said that “we didn’t have the money for anything like that”. She cited her daughter’s viewing of “inappropriate” material as the reason for banning her from social media.

Carla’s is a very different story from the one Leelah tells in her suicide note. In it, Leelah says that it was after she had decided to come out as transgender at school that her parents punished her. She wrote:

So they took me out of public school, took away my laptop and phone, and forbid me of getting on any sort of social media, completely isolating me from my friends. This was probably the part of my life when I was the most depressed, and I’m surprised I didn’t kill myself.

Carla said that she had never even heard her daughter use the name Leelah before and she saw it for the first time in her suicide note when it was posted on Tumblr after her death. She claims that recently her daughter had “quit talking about” being transgender, as she was put on medication to treat depression.

However, even more amazing may be the call to action the 17-year-old teen gave at the end of her suicide note and her hope that the tragedy of her death may help cause changes in the way transgender persons are treated around the country and even the world.

4. A drawing of Leelah made after her tragic death.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

5. Some of the response to Leelah’s death on social media.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

Accused Of 'Cruelty', The Christian Parents Of The Transgender Teen Who Killed Herself Refuse To Accept Their Child's Identity But Insist They Love 'Him'.

Here is the full suicide note:

If you are reading this, it means that I have committed suicide and obviously failed to delete this post from my queue.

Please don’t be sad, it’s for the better. The life I would’ve lived isn’t worth living in… because I’m transgender. I could go into detail explaining why I feel that way, but this note is probably going to be lengthy enough as it is. To put it simply, I feel like a girl trapped in a boy’s body, and I’ve felt that way ever since I was 4. I never knew there was a word for that feeling, nor was it possible for a boy to become a girl, so I never told anyone and I just continued to do traditionally “boyish” things to try to fit in.

When I was 14, I learned what transgender meant and cried of happiness. After 10 years of confusion I finally understood who I was. I immediately told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids. Even if you are Christian or are against transgender people donΓÇÖt ever say that to someone, especially your kid. That won’t do anything but make them hate them self. That’s exactly what it did to me.

My mom started taking me to a therapist, but would only take me to christian therapists, (who were all very biased) so I never actually got the therapy I needed to cure me of my depression. I only got more christians telling me that I was selfish and wrong and that I should look to God for help.

When I was 16 I realized that my parents would never come around, and that I would have to wait until I was 18 to start any sort of transitioning treatment, which absolutely broke my heart. The longer you wait, the harder it is to transition. I felt hopeless, that I was just going to look like a man in drag for the rest of my life. On my 16th birthday, when I didnΓÇÖt receive consent from my parents to start transitioning, I cried myself to sleep.

I formed a sort of a “f*** you” attitude towards my parents and came out as gay at school, thinking that maybe if I eased into coming out as trans it would be less of a shock. Although the reaction from my friends was positive, my parents were pissed. They felt like I was attacking their image, and that I was an embarrassment to them. They wanted me to be their perfect little straight christian boy, and thatΓÇÖs obviously not what I wanted.

So they took me out of public school, took away my laptop and phone, and forbid me of getting on any sort of social media, completely isolating me from my friends. This was probably the part of my life when I was the most depressed, and IΓÇÖm surprised I didn’t kill myself. I was completely alone for 5 months. No friends, no support, no love. Just my parent’s disappointment and the cruelty of loneliness.

At the end of the school year, my parents finally came around and gave me my phone and let me back on social media. I was excited, I finally had my friends back. They were extremely excited to see me and talk to me, but only at first. Eventually they realized they didn’t actually give a s**t about me, and I felt even lonelier than I did before. The only friends I thought I had only liked me because they saw me five times a week.

After a summer of having almost no friends plus the weight of having to think about college, save money for moving out, keep my grades up, go to church each week and feel like s**t because everyone there is against everything I live for, I have decided I’ve had enough. I’m never going to transition successfully, even when I move out. I’m never going to be happy with the way I look or sound. I’m never going to have enough friends to satisfy me. I’m never going to have enough love to satisfy me. I’m never going to find a man who loves me. I’m never going to be happy. Either I live the rest of my life as a lonely man who wishes he were a woman or I live my life as a lonelier woman who hates herself. There’s no winning. There’s no way out. I’m sad enough already, I don’t need my life to get any worse. People say “it gets better” but that isn’t true in my case. It gets worse. Each day I get worse.

That’s the gist of it, that’s why I feel like killing myself. Sorry if that’s not a good enough reason for you, it’s good enough for me. As for my will, I want 100% of the things that I legally own to be sold and the money (plus my money in the bank) to be given to trans civil rights movements and support groups, I don’t give a s**t which one. The only way I will rest in peace is if one day transgender people aren’t treated the way I was, they’re treated like humans, with valid feelings and human rights. Gender needs to be taught about in schools, the earlier the better. My death needs to mean something. My death needs to be counted in the number of transgender people who commit suicide this year. I want someone to look at that number and say “that’s f***ed up” and fix it. Fix society. Please.

Goodbye,

(Leelah) Josh Alcorn

Sources: CNN, Tumblr.

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