A woman suffering from chronic pain found a nasty note on her car after she used a disabled parking spot in a supermarket parking lot.
Sarah Metcalfe, who suffers from neurological illness which causes chronic pain and also has severe muscle stiffness, found the note on her windshield, after she left a Tesco supermarket in the U.K. with her 13-year-old son, Jack. It read:
Being fat and ugly doesn’t count as disabled (park elsewhere).
1. Sarah Metcalfe, who was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, found this abusive message on her windshield when she left the store in York, England, with her 13-year-old son, Jack.
The 35-year-old, from York, England, is now trying to track down the person who wrote the message. She said:
Both me and Jack were devastated to find the note. I think they must have seen me leaving my car with a smile on my face so assumed I wasn’t disabled or in pain.
Yet I was just happy to be out with my son — but we were both left absolutely heartbroken to find the note, it left us both in tears. Then our hurt turned to anger.
Now that I’ve calmed down I would still like to speak to the cowardly person behind the note to explain how not all disabilities are visible.
Though Metcalfe suffers from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome, and has applied for her disabled badge a few weeks ago, she is yet to be approved for it.
2. Metcalfe’s fibromyalgia developed after she had a serious fall five years ago. She also suffers chronic fatigue syndrome. Above, the mother-of-one holding the note next to her car.
I don’t like to claim benefits, I like to just try and get on with it, but the pain was so bad on this occasion that I was forced to used a disabled bay to limit the walk.
There were around 40 disabled parking bays and most were free.
I wouldn’t have been able to go in if I hadn’t used it — my ankles had become so weak that I was worried I’d go over on them. But I was enjoying a day out with my son so was determined to make it in.
It was Jack who had to find the note. It floored him — he couldn’t believe someone could say that but use a piece of paper to say it so there can be no comeback, it’s just horrible.
3. Metcalfe said she was devastated when she found the note in the car park of the Tesco Extra in Clifton Moor, York, pictured above. She did not have a Blue Badge displayed on her car.
Metcalfe believes the incident shows the lack of awareness which people have of different disabilities. She said:
Not every disability is visible. Just because I’m not in a wheelchair doesn’t mean I’m not disabled.
I think the person who did this should come forward. I just want to talk to them about what it’s like to live with a disability like this.
I think they should have thought about the impact that writing this could have had on the wrong person.
I consider myself quite a strong person, but this could have gone on someone’s car who couldn’t handle such nasty personal abuse.
Whoever did it, didn’t think about the terrible effect it could have had on someone.
I know it will be very hard for the person who did it to have the courage to come forward, but if you are reading this and know it was you, please do.
A spokesman has said that Tesco was “shocked” to hear about Metcalfe’s incident and added that the supermarket tries hard to combat discrimination. He said:
We ask that customers display a blue badge if they are parking in a disabled bay to prevent abuse of these essential spaces, but appreciate our Clifton Moor customer’s concerns and would welcome her to talk to our colleagues in store.
We will also report this incident to the car park owners.
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