A woman who was pictured breastfeeding in public and the image was shared on social media in order to shame her, has hit back, saying she felt “violated”.
The photograph of Conner Kendall of Dugger, Indiana, shows her breastfeeding her four-month-old son at a TGI Fridays in Terre Haute.
The new mom has now responded to the unidentified man who took the image and shared it on Facebook. (Scroll down for the video.)
1. An unidentified man shared a post on Facebook about new mother Conner Kendall after he saw her breastfeeding at a Terre Haute, Indiana, TGI Fridays.
On Thursday, Kendall shared an image of the man’s original message on her own Facebook account and wrote:
It is my right to feed him any way I see fit wherever I see fit.
Kendall found out about the post on a Facebook group for Terre Haute mothers, where someone had shared a screenshot of the man’s original post. Kendall told The Daily Mail:
I said to myself ”That looks like TGI Fridays … we sat right there … Hey! That’s me and Carter.”
2. The mother responded to the circulated photo of her and her baby boy (below) by writing a letter to the man which she then posted online.
The man’s post, which is full of grammatical errors, read:
I know when a baby is Hungry they need fed.
I went to know if this is appropriate or inappropriate as I’m trying to eat my Fridays, there are little kids around.
I understand feeding in public but could you at least cover your boob up?!
3. Kendall said that her four-month-old son, Carter, does not eat when under a cover and that “you see less while I’m nursing than some people show at Walmart”.
Kendall did not enjoy seeing an image of herself breastfeeding her son popping up on people’s Facebook feed and wrote a reply.
The mother said that the man, whom she believes she noticed at the restaurant with his own daughter, has since issued a “very short and, what seemed to me, a very insincere apology in a private message”.
In his apology, the man wrote that he was “trying to educate himself” by posting it, The Daily Mail reports.
The man also wrote that it was an “impulsive thing to do”, though he did take his post down twice after commenters started criticizing him, only to then repost it once more.
4. The mother said that the incident at TGI Fridays occurred three hours after her baby had last been fed and that women shouldn’t be “put down, shamed, and harassed for simply fulfilling our children’s most basic need”.
Kendall’s reply on Facebook has now been shared more than 42,000 times. She told The Daily Mail:
If it’s so offensive why is he showing everybody else? It would have been much less of a deal if he didn’t take the photo.
I would have posed for a picture of me nursing if he’d asked.
I am blessed that I have the opportunity to feed him because a lot of mom’s don’t.
5. A medical experts offers tips on breastfeeding in public.
Kendall says that her biggest problem with the picture was that it had been shared on Facebook with the objective of shaming her.
She added that it is legal in Indiana to breastfeed wherever she is legally allowed to be, however posting a picture of a minor without a guardian’s consent is not. She wrote:
If you post the picture of my child and me ever again I will seek legal action. I will publicly shame you as you have shamed me.
I pray that if in the future your daughter chooses to breastfeed that she is not shamed and does not have her picture plastered all over social media.
She says that she wants to educate people about breastfeeding in public and hopes to turn the negative from the experience into positive.
Source: The Daily Mail.
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